Body confidence is one of the hardest things for people to have. Sometimes it seems like society makes it for acceptable for you see flaws in your body and to want to change it than for you to love your body.
You're vain, stuck up, full of yourself or whatever else they want to say if you're confident in your own body. But if anyone were to say they wish they could change their legs, get leaner, lose weight, gain weight, whatever, somehow that's just normal and okay to think. Why is that?
Sometimes it also seems like loving your body and wanting to make improvements can't exist at the same time. Apparently, if you want to change, you can't love what you already have.
If you followed my journey and seen my old posts, you'd know I came from a place of once wishing I looked completely different. It took me a while but eventually I realised that even though I didn't look the way I wanted to, I had to love what I had. So I did! In all 3 of those photo above, I had already started loving myself and my body.
It was not something I openly announced to anyone at the start because I figure that if I did I'd probably find support from only a few people and probably receive comments along the lines of
"You could still lose some weight"
"Your bum's quite big though"
"But you're so chubby"
"You're not skinny"
And even if you thought you felt comfortable, these comments can still hurt.
Today, I can honestly and happily say i really do love my body. It still isn't perfect but I love it just the way it is and I'm more than happy to say it. I learned that really being comfortable and happy in my body means that I can announce it without being afraid of what other people might say. Even if someone thought I didn't look good, I still look great to me, and that's the only person's opinion who matters.
I've received messages on Instagram from people who said they were unhappy with their own bodies and wanted to know what I did to get my body to look the way it does now. I could keep telling everyone to eat better and exercise, to cut out sugar or have less candy and fat. But at the end of the day, you need to start with a good midset.
I didn't start running thinking I wanted to lose weight, I start running because of a game. Yes, a game! I had no goals, I probably had no intention of actually getting fitter or improving my body. It just ended up happening along the way.
And when I started running, I already accepted what I was, and I loved myself. Eventually I changed what I did and decided why I was doing this but it all started in a good place.
So, love your body. That's step one.
Look in the mirror everyday and tell yourself what you love about your body. I still do that every few days, it does wonders after a few weeks! Take photos and don't delete them, know that this is you and you are beautiful, wonderful and loved just the way you are. You will definitely have moment where you hate those photos but I promise, one day you won't. I kept many of my old photos that I once thought were just disgusting and now I see them completely differently.
And just for a little bit of happiness, dance in your room, sing out love and dress the way you know will make you feel happy. It makes the biggest difference.
And after this, if you want to change, go for it! try new workouts that you LOVE doing. There's 1000s of options so don't stick to something you hate. Eat food that's good for you AND also eat food that you love. If you want some chocolate, have some. Eat veggies cause it's good for your body and eat cake cause it's good for your soul.
You stick to changes a lot longer and it is a lot easier when you have a positive mindset.
I love my body. And you all should too!
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