"Pulling someone down will never help you reach the top"
You'll always have supporters and you'll always have people who decide to hate regardless of what you do or who you are.
I don't understand the point of being mean to someone, whether you were serious of "just joking", hurtful comments are never a good idea. I'll admit when I was in primary school I was picked on and there was a point where I thought maybe it would be okay to pick on someone else too, if people did it to me I could do it too right? Yeah, wrong. Very wrong.
Thankfully I was pretty shy and never did it except to exchange comments between me and my so called "friends", still I do regret the few times I did decide to be a part of exchanging mean comment and wish I could take it all back.
I'm glad I know better now. We're all people, we have feelings, and we need support and love more than hate.
This whole time I've been on Instagram, I've received a decent amount nasty comments, at first I used to think these were so bad and rude and unnecessary. It made me not want to post my flows or share certain asanas or just post any photo go me not doing yoga ( just like the one on the left) - all because what if someone else said something about it?
What if they said I was fat or looked bad or I was doing something wrong?
Then time went on, I got better, stronger, fitter and more confident and now it's almost like these comments mean nothing to me.
I see them, I read them, sometimes I reply when I feel I can share something more positive from it or tell them why what they're saying is wrong. Other times, I just delete them.
Then I realised I rarely got bad comments on photos or videos I posted on my own account, in fact I could probably count the number of times it's happened on one hand. But if it was reposted to a brand or fitness account, that's when you'd see them. It's like these people are more comfortable saying mean things if they think you're not going to read it. That's how it works isn't it - Keyboard warriors?
But at the end of it all, why even post such nasty comments? It doesn't matter how you feel, whether you had a bad day or maybe you don't like where you are at this point in time, maybe someone else said something mean to you. Is it really worth it to think about saying these things, then type it and press send? That's 3 moments, right there where you could have stopped and been a better person.
I feel strongly about this. I'm no expert when it comes to yoga or working out or fitness in general. This is my journey, and i'm trying to get healthier for me. And though I maybe be able to read comments and laugh it off and move on like nothing changed, not everyone else can.
Just a couple of posts ago, i shared my insecurities. (read "Elephant In The Room") Everyone has their own insecurities and if you think it's funny to say something rude and mean, you never know how badly it could affect their lives.
All it takes is one comment.
"But he/she's too fat/skinny to be fit"
"No one wants to see that!"
"Why are you even doing this?!"
"That's a stupid workout/yoga flow"
"You don't even have an ass!"
Anything like that, anything less even, could crush someone's spirit. It doesn't matter who they are, how many followers they have, regardless of their age or sex or body type, anyone could be very negatively affected by these comments.
On the other side of this, responding to a hate comment by being just as rude and attacking them is no different. You're adding fuel to the fire when instead you should be putting it out altogether.
Think before you type. If you still feel the need to be rude or mean, log off instead and reflect on what happened that got to this point and how you can change it to be a better person.
If you're not confident when it comes to sharing photos or videos on your social media, that's okay.
It happens to the best of us. I don't have the greatest advice or any solution that fits every person but having a supportive circle of friends really helps when it comes to these things.
Believing in yourself is the biggest step you can make.
Regardless of what you look like, what you're doing or how "good" you are, this is you and you're doing a great job just being who you are!
Believe in yourself and be confident with what you're sharing. And regardless of what people may or may not say about you, keep doing you!
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